family is also deeply religious. But I'm in a very complex situation.
When I was in college at the age of 17, I started developing a
father-son relationship with one of my teachers. That would be fine if
he was a Muslim. But he was born in a Hindu family, an atheist now for
a long time and also critical about all religions including Islam. He
loves me too much and beyond imagination. I know it because he talksto
me everyday though now he lives in a foreigncountry. Everyday we keep
contact- literally everyday. And honestly I love him too much too; I
go crazy if he doesn't call me even just one day. I always think he is
my father. All my family and friends know about our relation and
accept it.
But I don't like him being critical about religions including my
religion. I also told him that. It's true that he never told me
anything definitive about Islam like other atheists say for example
'Islam suppresses women' etc. etc. nor did he ever say to me to become
an atheist. He sometimes talks about different 'ayats' and points out
that this 'ayat' says so, that 'ayat' tells Muslims to do so etc. etc.
as he studies religions and theholy books. He read the Koran and the
Hadiths few times.
Now the big issue is:
Does Islam approve of such relation with a non-Muslim who is also
critical about Islam? Please give references from the Koran and
Hadiths when you answer me back. Islam comes first to me, every one
else later. If Islam does not approve of it, I'll surely cut this
relation. But that will definitely take a huge toll on me.
Praise be to Allaah.
If the matter is as you describe in your question, we advise you to
strive hard to distanceyourself from this man and to cut off this
relationship that is based on great love for him, because that is
damaging to your religious commitment, and the affect of that is clear
from your words about your deep attachment to him, your lengthy
relationship with him and your not being able to leave him. All of
that is very damaging to the Muslim's 'aqeedah (belief) which requires
him to disavow the disbelievers and to take as close friends and love
the believers. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"You (O Muhammad SAW) will not find any people who believe in Allah
and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allah and
His Messenger (Muhammad SAW ), eventhough they were their fathers, or
their sons, or their brothers, or their kindred (people). For such He
has written Faithin their hearts, and strengthened them with Rooh
(proofs, light and true guidance) from Himself. And We will admit them
to Gardens (Paradise) under which rivers flow, to dwell therein
(forever). Allah ispleased with them, and they with Him. They are the
Party of Allah. Verily, it is the Party of Allah that will be the
successful."
[al-Mujaadilah 58:22].
This love of the heart is aserious matter, because it is contrary to
the teachings of al-wala' wa'l-bara' (love and loyalty versus
disavowal and enmity), which is one of the most important basic
principles of Islam and one of the strongest bonds of faith, which is
indicated by a great dealof evidence from the Qur'an and Sunnah.
Please see the answer to question no. 47322 and 23325
This does not mean that you cannot treat him kindly if you meet him or
you have a class together or work together, without being eager to
meet him outside of school or work. So strive to correctyourself and
end this forbidden friendship. If it so happens that you meet for any
reason, make it your main concern to make him love Islam and call him
to it, and warn him of the grave situation that he is in, in the hope
that Allah may decree that hebe guided out your hand. At that time,
your love for him will be beneficial to him when you to call him to
Islam. We ask Allah to help you to do that which is good.
And Allah knows best
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