A Happy Formula

Hadhrat Luqmaan Alayhissalam – who was unanimously Hakeem (wise) and a
Nabi according to somewas employed as a labourer in an orchard. One
day, the owner of the orchardcame and asked him to bring some
cucumbers. He peeled one and gave it Hadhrat Luqmaan who started
eating it with relish. The owner, witnessing Hadhrat Luqmaan eating
the cucumber with such relish thought that it must be rather
delicious. He placed a slice of it intohis mouth and on findingit was
extremely bitter, spat it out and frowned.
"This cucumber is rather bitter," he addressed Hadhrat Luqmaan, "but
you were eating it as thought it was very delicious."
Hadhrat Luqmaan said, "Yes, of course! It is bitter."
"Why didnt you say so?" asked the master.
He replied, "What can I say? I thought to myself that the hand from
whichI ate sweet things thousands of times, if thesame hand gives me
something bitter just once, how can I show it on my face?"
This is such a principle that if both spouses remember it, there will
never be an opportunity for contention and dispute.
The wife should remember that the husband has put up with all her
frivolities thousands of times, what is there if he is hard with me
just this once? The husband on the othe hand should also ponder over
the thousands of times his wife had servedhim diligently.
(At-Tableegh vol 7 page 128)