to be a true beliver 1 quility is to love for your brother what u love
for yourself. Al humdurilla this is easy to do with my blood brother,
but very difficult to do this for any of my muslim brothers except a
few , the reason being is that when i see my muslim brother betterthen
me in anything i feel jealous, i thing it's pride(brother i make
duaato allah to forgive me for felling like this but when isee my
muslim brother again,this feeling comes back again)
I want to fell happy seeing my muslim brotherprosper and i want to
fell sad when he's sad.but whenever i see people praising my muslim
brother i fell jealous.
i also fell like wanting formy muslim brother janatul ferdose but
whenever my muslim brother tells me something which will benefit me
for deen, i want to practice it but saythan comes and tell me that if
i practice it then my muslim brother would get the same rewards as i
would and sohis stage will be higher then minein jannah, my nafs
sometimes fall for this trap. i would like to knowhow i can get total
cure from this problem.
Praise be to Allaah.
What every Muslim is obliged to do, as you mentioned, is to love for
his brother what he loves for himself of good things,and to hate for
his brother what he hates for himself of bad things. Thisdoes not mean
that he cannot like for himself what he likes for others. Ifhe sees
that his brother has something that he does not, and he wishes that he
had it too, this is ghibtah (envy that is free from malice); if he
wishes that the blessing would be taken away from them, this is called
hasad (destructive jealousy).
The Muslim needs to strive against his own self(jihaad al-nafs) so
that his heart will be free of jealousy towards his Muslim brothers.
If he sincerely loves his brothers, most of these problems from which
he is suffering will disappear.When the Muslim realizes how great his
virtue and status will be when he loves his brothers and loves good
things for them, and when he knows how great his reward will be if he
treats them well, this will motivate him to treat them well in all
ways, andto strive to benefit his brothers instead of being
preoccupied with jealous thoughts of what they have and he doesn't.
Shaykh Muhammad al-Duwaysh.
You have to think long and hard about the wordsof Allaah
(interpretation of the meaning):
"That is the Grace of Allaah which He bestows on whom He wills
[al-Maa'idah 5:54]
"It is We Who portion out between them their livelihood in this world,
and We raised some of them above others in ranks, so that some may
employ others in their work
[al-Zukhruf 43:32]
Hasad (destructive jealousy) causes a great deal of harm in this
worldand in the Hereafter. Al-Tirmidhi narrated from al-Zubayr ibn
al-'Awaam that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said:
"There has come to you the disease of the nations before you, jealousy
and hatred. This is the 'shaver' (destroyer); I do not say that it
shaves hair, but that it shaves (destroys) faith. By the One in
WhoseHand is my soul, you will not enter Paradise until you believe,
and you will not believe until you love one another. Shall I not tell
you of that which will strengthen love between you? Spread (the
greetingof) salaam amongst yourselves." (A hasan hadeeth. Jaami'
al-Tirmidhi, 2434).
Concerning the meaning of the phrase "it shaves (destroys) faith",
al-Tayyibi said: "i.e., hatred takes away faith like a razor takes
away hair." (Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi bi Sharh Jaami' al-Tirmidhi).
It seems, my brother, thatyou know the ruling and are aware of the
consequences, and that you want to rid yourself of this blameworthy
characteristic. Here are some solutions for you.
1- Make du'aa' (supplication) to Allaah and ask Him to
rid you of this problem. The Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) used to say in his du'aa', "Wa'hdi qalbi wa'slul sakheemata
sadri (guide my heart and remove ill will from my breast)." Thephrase
"guide my heart" means to the straight path, and "remove ill will from
my breast" means take away all insincerity, rancour and hatred.
2- Pondering themeanings of the Qur'aan and reading it
frequently, especially the verses which speak of hasad (destructive
jealousy), because reading the Qur'aan brings one a great deal of
hasanaat (reward for good deeds). Allaah says (interpretationof the
meaning):
"Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds
[Hood 11:114] :->
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