The first contact with a woman is with one's mother, who suffers in
the pregnancy,delivery,nursing and rearing of her child. History does
not recall a religion or a system which honours the woman as a mother
and which raises her, as Islam does. Islam repeatedly commends the
woman, and this comes directly after the command to worship and
believe in the Oneness of Allah. Allah has made honouring one's mother
a virtue, and He puts forth the mother's right over that of the father
for what she endures in pregnancy, delivery,nursing and raising her
children.
This has been honoured and restated in the Qur'an, in multiple
chapters, to imprint thisnotion in the child's mind and heart as per
the following verses:
"And we have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents.
His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and
hardship, and his weaning is in two years-give thanks to Me and your
parents,-unto Me is the final destination. [The Holy Qur'an, Chapter
31, Verse 14]
"And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents.
His mother bears him with hardship and she brings him forth with
hardship, and thebearing of him, and the weaning of him is thirty (30)
months. [The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 46, Verse 15]
The status of women as mother has been restated in many Ahadis (
Sayings of Muhammad (PBUH)).
A man came to the Prophet Muhammad(PBUH) asking, "Who is most
deserving of my care?" He said, "Your mother." The manasked, "Then
who?" He said,"Your mother." The man asked,"Then who?" He said, Your
mother." The man asked (the fourth time), "Then who?" He said, "Your
father. [ Transmitted by Bukhari and Muslim on the authority of Abu
Huraira The Pearl and the Coral (Al-Lu'lu' wal-Marjan) (1652)]
Al-Bazzar recounts that a man was circumambulating the Ka'bah carrying
his mother. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) asked him, "Have you repaid
her?" The man said, "No, not even for one of her moans (i.e. one of
the moans of labour, delivery and so on) [Transmittedby Al-Bazzar
(1872)]
As to be good to her, it means treating her well, respecting
her,humbling oneself in front of her,obeying her without
disobeyingAllah, seeking her satisfaction and pleasure in all matters,
even in a holy war. If it is optional, he must have her permission,
for being good to her in a type of jihad. [ Jihad is the struggle
(physical, mental, psychological, spiritual, etc.) to preserve the
purity and practice of Islam. ]
A man came to the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) and said,
"O Messenger of Allah, I want to fight and I want your advice." He
asked him,"Have you a mother?" The man said, "Yes." He said, "Do not
leave her because Paradise is under her feet. [ Transmitted by
Al-Nisaai, 6/11; Ibn Majah, 1/278and Al-Hakim. It is amended and
approved by Al-Dhahaby, 4/151,on the authority of Muaaweya Ibn
Jammah.]
Some religious laws before Islam neglected the mother's relations,
making them insignificant. With the advent of Islam, it recommended
caring for uncles and aunts, both on the father's side and the
mother's. A man approached theProphet Muhammad(PBUH) and said, "I
committed an offence, could I atone for it?" He asked,"Have you got a
mother?" The man said, "No." He asked, "Have you got a maternal aunt?"
The man said, "Yes." The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Be good to her. [
Transmitted by Termithy in"Righteousness and Relations" (1905); Ibn
Hibban Charity (EI-Ehsan) (435); and Al-Hakim who amended it on the
terms ofthe two Sheikhs, agreed upon by Al-Dhahaby, 4/155, all on the
authority of Umar.]
It is amazing that Islam commanded us to be good to a mother even
though she is an unbeliever!
Asma'a bint Abu Bakr asked the Prophet (PBUH) about her relationship
to her unbelieving mother who had come to her. He said, "Yes, be on
good terms with your mother". [Transmittedon the authority of Asmaa
(agreed upon), The Pearl and theCoral (Al-Lu'lu' wal-Marjan) (587).]
An indication that Islam cares for motherhood, for the rights of
mothers and their feelings is that a divorced mother has greater
rights and is worthier oflooking after her children than the father.
`Abdallah ibn `Amr ibn Al-as transmitted that a woman asked, "O
Messenger of Allah, this son of mine had my womb as a container, my
breasts for drinking, my lap to contain him. His father has taken him
from me." The Prophet (PBUH) said,"You have more right if you do not
marry". [Transmitted by Ahmad in Al Musnad (6707). Sheikh Shaker said
its authenticity is correct. Transmitted also by Abu Dawud.] ....
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