girlfriend gifted me a silver bracelet.I had promised her that I will
not remove the bracelet from my hand. Now I stopped her relationship
for the sake of Allah. Recently I came to know that wearing silver
bracelet is haraam. Idont know what to do now.
1) Should I break the promise and remove the bracelet? or
2) I cannot return it to herIm not in touch. So, can I sell it if I
should not use it anymore? or
3) What should I do with the money If I can sell it?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
It is haraam for you to wear this bracelet, because bracelets are
jewellery for women, whether they are made ofgold, silver or anything
else. So it is not permissible for men to wear them. Rather it is
permissible for them to wear rings of silver.
See the answer to question no. 1980 and 148059
Secondly:
If a person makes a promise to someone to do something haraam or not
do something obligatory, it is not permissible for him to fulfil his
promise.
It is not permissible for you to fulfil your promise to her to wear
the bracelet and never take it off, because it is a promiseto do
something haraam.
If a vow to commit sin should not be fulfilled, and in fact is not
permissible according to the consensus of the Muslims, as Ibn Qudaamah
(may Allah have mercy on him) said in al-Mughni (10/69), thenit is
even more appropriate to say that a promise to do something haraam
should not be fulfilled either.
Please see the answer to question no. 30861
Secondly:
Gifts are of two types:
(i)
Those that are purely giftsand are given as a token of respect or
friendship. These become the property of the recipient and it is not
permissible for the giver to take themback.
(ii)
Gifts given with the intention of getting something in return from the
recipient, which the fuqaha' call "gifts for which there is the hope
ofrecompense or reward". In this case, the giver maytake his gift back
if he does not get what he wanted.
Based on that, if this girl gave you the bracelet so that you would
carry on your relationship with her, and you ended the relationship,
it is permissible for her to takeback her gift. If she does not come
to you concerning it and does not ask for it, then there isno blame on
you and you do not have to give it back to her; you could give it to a
woman to wear if it is suitable for women, or you could sell it to a
jeweller or give it to him to make rings for men or jewellery that is
suitable for women.
And Allah knows best.
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