well. Therefore, telling the existence, oneness and greatness of Allah
and inviting them to live by the Quran values, is a great blessing and
a very important worship for Muslims. For this reason, believers
remember Allah, always say the best of the words, preach the message
of Islam, enjoin the good, and forbid the bad. However, they avoid
turning conversations intoa monologue, without allowing anyone else to
speak, as they know this isnot the attitude preached by Quran's moral
values.
Allah states in the following verse that everything everyone says are recorded:
" No indeed! We will write down what he says and prolong the
punishment for him. We will inherit from him the things he is talking
about and he will come to Us all alone." (Surah Maryam, 79-80)
Therefore people are responsible for every idea and thought they have,
everything they do, just like everything they say and they will be
treated accordingly in the hereafter. For this reason the goal of a
person must be avoiding to say a word that could make him ashamed and
repent at the Sight of Allah.
Those who are aware of this important truth revealed by our Lord in
the Quran and who live bythese good moral values, are no doubt the
'believers'. The believers, spend all their lives to gain the pleasure
of Allah. Everything they do, every decision they make, their actions,
behaviors are all intended to please Allah. The same thing goes for
their speeches, conversations and tone. The believers, in pursuit
ofAllah's pleasure, will speakonly if what he is going to say, will
make a positive contribution to the personhe is talking to. They
never seek to draw attention, show off their knowledge when they are
speaking to someone. Sometimes they don't talk at all, and just
listen. And sometimes it might be justa couple of sentences that is
needed to convey his opinion and chooses to benefit from the ideas of
the other person instead. However, some people usea far different
style of speech other than the one based the Quran's moral values.
The mistakes that prevent a conversation from being a wise one
The believers will only speak for Allah's pleasure, and only if that
speech is going to make a positive impact on the person he isspeaking
to. He doesn't seek to be on the forefront. However, many people just
try to be one in the spotlight, making allthe talk, acting with an
attitude of 'I know the best, so I have to talk the most'. Some of
these undesired qualities can be listed as follows: never listening to
anyone, and interrupting others, usually talking with a loudvoice.
This way these people think that they canmake others listen to them
and gain their respect. They never hesitate to shout in attempts to
show how right they are, or to deter, convince or silence others.
However Muslims talk with a reasonable level of voice. Allah shows
the Prophet Luqman (pbuh) asan example to believers. The Prophet
Luqman (pbuh) advises his son as follows:
Be moderate in your tread and lower your voice. The most hateful of
voices is the donkey's bray . (Surah Luqman, 19)
These people don't ever think of listening to othersor benefitting
from their ideas. According to them, turning conversations intoa
one-man conference is an achievement, makes them superior, therefore
they never imagine that it could disturb other people.
According to them, it is not possible for others to have more
knowledge in asubject or put it in a more clever way. This is an
attitude the believers must refrain from strictly. Our Lord states as
follows:
... We raise the rank of anyone We will. Over everyone with knowledge
is a Knower. (Surah Yusuf, 76)
People with the 'I know the best' attitude, usually try to give the
appearanceof being the smartest, wisest and most knowledgeable person
around. They don't need deep knowledge or expertise to act like that,
itcould be something everyone knows, or that they only know of
superficially, or that they heard from others. In every opportunity,
they try to prove their so-calledknowledge and experience to people
around them. Just like it is the case in many other bad habits, the
source of 'I know the best' attitude comes from the inner self, the
enemy of wisdom and common sense.
Listening to a speaking person courteously without interrupting is a
good attitude, which will hopefully be a means for Allah's pleasure.
Such behavior will also be an indication of respect to thespeaker.
However, people away from Quran's moral values, usually don't listen
to others, and even interrupt or talk at the same time.
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