Advise -

Although many Muslims may right now be in failingmarriages and on a
fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many
ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and
wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The following
principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in
trouble or byMuslims who would like to avoid trouble in their
marriage.
Examples of negative relationship of Husband & Wife
Many Muslim husbands andwives treat each other like adversaries rather
than partners. The husband feelsthat he is the boss, and whatever he
says goes. Thewife feels that she must squeeze everything she canout
of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are
satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him
into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he
does not give them the lifestyle that theirfriends and families enjoy.
Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and
even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in
the family.
Do not be a Tyrant, Be Partners in the Decision Making Process, Never
be Emotionally, Be Careful of Your Words, Show Affection, Be Your
Spouse's Friend, Work Together in the House, Show Appreciation,
Communication is Important, Don't bring up past problems once they
have been solved, Live Simply, Give Your Spouse Time Alone, Admit Your
Mistakes, Have Meals Together, Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics,
Physical Relationship is Important, Be available to your mate
sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by
selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: " It is not
appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must
send a message of love beforehand."
Marriage In The Eyes of Allah
It is very sad that this relationship which Allah (SWT) has
established for the good has been made a source of contention,
deception, trickery,tyrann y,humiliation,and abuse. Thisis not the way
marriage is supposed to be.
Allah (SWT) described marriage very differently inthe Holy Quran: '. .
. He created for you mates fromamong yourselves, that ye may dwell in
tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your
(hearts) . . . " (Holy Quran 30:21).
DU'AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
'Allaahummaj-al min azwaajinaa wa dhurriyyaatinaa qurrata a-ayunin
waj-alnaa lil muttaqeena imaamaa'
" O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who have a coolness of
the eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing. "
' Bismillahi aladeeni wanafsi wawaladi wa ahli wamali.'
"May the blessings of Allah be on my Deen, life, children, family and wealth."

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