Happiness

It would be nice if we all had loving and supportive parents. Some do,
Alhamdulillah. But some have parents who are critical, demeaning and
harsh. If you have an abusive parent who tells you that you are
worthless,stupid and good for nothing, you can't spend your life
waiting and hoping for that parent to love you and be proud of you. It
ain't gonna happen. Most likely your parent wasraised harshly
himself/herself and doesn'tknow how to act any otherway. Accept that
reality and learn to value yourself,no matter what anyone says.
You will have to be strong and independent in spirit. You will have to
find validation of your worth within yourself. You do have worth,
after all. You are as unique and beautifulas the sun and the moon, the
sea and the stars. You are special and gifted and you will need to
realize that on your own, even in the face of external abuse.
Seek your support from Allah.
"And We have certainly honored the children of Adam and carried them
on the land and sea and provided for them of the good things and
preferred them over much of what We have created…" – Quran, 17:70.
Allah has honored you. Dignity is your birthright. It's okay if you're
not perfect. No one is. You can still love yourself, with all your
special gifts and funnyhabits, and whatever is lacking, well, you can
work on it. That's what all of us do.
Be patient with your parent and love them, but don't buy into their
negativity. Allah loves you and has a plan for you. Believe this and
move forward, and when you have children, shut down the cycle of
negativity and do better than your parent did. It's okay to be better
than your parents. Any good parent wants their children to surpass
them.
Show your own children patience, gentleness and endless love.
May Allah bless you and fill your heart with self-knowledge,
self-dignity, and hope for the future/

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