General Dought & clear, - * He said to his wife: If you do not do such and such, then you can go, or I don’t need you

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If a man tell to his wife , that you should always listen to me and liv with me on the way i want, and if you do,nt do it or if you are not happy to live with me, then you can go. and I don,t need you.
So my question is... ( Is this talaq?) and if it is, then what should the man do?
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Praise be to Allah
If a man says to his wife: If you do not do that, or if you’re not happy to live with me, then you can go, and I don’t need you, this is not an explicit divorce (talaaq); rather it comes under the heading of metaphors for divorce, and metaphors for divorce do not count as such unless they are accompanied by the intention of divorce.
Please see:al-‘Inaayah Sharh al-Hidaayah(4/64);at-Taaj wa’l-Ikleel(5/329); Asna al-Mataalib (3/271);al-Furoo‘(5/387);al-Insaaf(8/476).
The view of the Hanafis and Hanbalis is that a metaphor for divorce counts as a divorce if there is circumstantial evidence to support that, such as if he said that in anger, or she asked him for a divorce and he said to her, for example, Go and join your family, or I don’t need you.
See:al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah(29/27).
It says inZaad al-Mustaqni‘: Words that may be understood as a metaphor for divorce do not count as a divorce unless the intention accompanies the words, except in the case of a dispute or anger, or answering her request. End quote.
The more correct view is that a metaphor does not count as a divorce unless it is accompanied by the intention;, dispute or anger alone is not sufficient.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said in his commentaryash-Sharh al-Mumti‘,:
These are three situations in which a metaphor for divorce counts as such without the intention. Dispute means a dispute with his wife, whereupon he says: Go to your family. In this case it counts as a divorce even if he did not intend it as such, because we have circumstantial evidence to indicate that what he intended was to divorce her.
In the event of anger, even if there is no dispute, such as if he tells her to do something and she does not do it, so he gets angry and says: Go to your family. This counts as a divorce even if he did not intend it as such.
Answering her request means that she said: Divorce me, and he said: Go to your family. This counts as a divorce.
But the correct view is that a metaphor does not count as a divorce unless it is accompanied by the intention, even in these situations, because a person may say in anger Get out and the like, without having the intention of divorce at all.
End quote fromash-Sharh al-Mumti‘(13/75).
So if the husband did not intend to issue a divorce thereby, then it does not count as such, if the wife did not do what he wanted her to do. If he did intend to issue a divorce thereby, then it counts as a divorce if the wife went against what he wanted when he said that.
If he does not know what his intention was, or he forgot what it was, then it does not count as a divorce, because the basic principle is that the marriage remains valid.
And Allah knows best.

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General Dought & clear, - * Ruling on doing Kegel exercises and inserting something into the vagina during those exercises

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My Question is about Kegel exercises that are done to strengthen pelvic muscle and have many health benefits such as improving urine inconsistency, even reverses many other bladder and vaginal related issues for females. Please note that there are different ways of practising this technique, one of which requires the female to insert a small weighted silicone rubber in her vagina and contract there to strengthen the muscles and make them more active. It's really beneficial as after multiple pregnancies a woman's private part gets different types of issues such as not being tight enough due to which the urine leaks out, no pleasure for wife and husband due to the private part becoming loose over the years, also prevents Vaginal and Rectal Prolapse etc
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Praise be to Allah
Kegel exercises are used for the purposes that you mention, according to what is said and published on several websites.
We did not have the opportunity to verify whether there are any benefits as mentioned, or any others, from any trustworthy sources in the field of natural or sports medicine.
You should ask trustworthy specialists about the benefits of these exercises, and what has been proven from studies on the topic. If there is certainty about these exercises being beneficial, then there is nothing wrong with doing them, subject to two conditions:
Firstly, it should not be for the purpose of sexual pleasure or enjoyment from pressure or inserting something into the vagina, because this comes under the heading of masturbation which is haraam, regardless of whether one reaches orgasm or not. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts)
Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, for then, they are free from blame”
[al-Mu’minoon 23:5, 6].
It says inal-Mubdi‘(3/22): If a person masturbates but does not ejaculate, then he has committed a haraam act, but it does not invalidate the fast. End quote.
For more information, please see:Haashiyat al-‘Ibaadi ‘ala al-Gharar al-Bahiyyah(2/3458)
InFaatawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah li’l-Iftaa’(22/60) it says: I would like to know the Islamic view on deliberately emitting semen by applying pressure on the prostate (in the pubic region). This is what I do all the time. Does this come under the heading of masturbation? Please note that I cannot get married because of my financial circumstances first of all, and secondly because of my health.
Answer: Masturbation is haraam no matter what form it takes, because it is enjoying something other than what Allah has permitted of marital relations. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts)
Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, for then, they are free from blame.
But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors”
[al-Mu’minoon 23:5, 6].
And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.” So he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) advised one of two ways, either marriage or fasting, for the one who is not able to get married, and he did not mention any way other than these two, which indicates that masturbation is haraam. End quote.
Standing Committee for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas
Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd, Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez Aal ash-Shaykh, Shaylh Saalih al-Fazaan, Shaykh ‘Abdullah ibn Ghadyaan, Shaykh ‘Abd ar-Razzaaq ‘Afeefi, Shaykh ‘Abd al-“Azeez ibn ‘Abdullah ibn Baaz
Secondly, these exercises should not be used if they involve inserting anything into the vagina, because this action is haraam and that there is no need for it, and there is the fear that it may lead to that which is mentioned above as being prohibited, namely masturbation or haraam pleasure.
And Allah knows best.

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