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I am a young woman aged 26. I have received a marriage proposal from a young man who is of good character and religiously committed, and all his attributes are good. He is goodhearted and kind, but the reason I am hesitating to marry him and am delaying my response to his family is his job. He is currently a producer of programs and contests on television. The program that he produces is broadcast in the mornings contains various sections such as news, tourism, health, sports and interviews, and they are not free of clips of traditional songs, and both men and women appear on the program.
My question is: is the salary that he gets from this job halaal or haraam? Should I marry him? Because frankly I would like him as a husband because of the ties between us; from the time I was very young I liked him. Or would I be sinning by marrying him and would I be disobeying my Lord? Were it not for fear of Allaah, I would not bother to ask; and your answer will help me to make my final decision.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
You have done well to ask about matters of your religion and to pay attention to making sure that the source of your provision is halaal and to seek to marry a righteous man. We ask Allaah to make that easy for you.
Secondly:
Working in the production of programs and contests on television in the manner that you describe, which includes mixing between the sexes, songs and music, is work that includes both halaal and haraam, good and evil, because it is proven that mixing, musical instruments and showing images of women are haraam. Whatever is haraam, it is not permissible to produce it or to help in that, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Help you one another in Al‑Birr and At‑Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression. And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is Severe in punishment”
[al-Maa’idah 5:2]
“Verily, those who like that (the crime of) illegal sexual intercourse should be propagated among those who believe, they will have a painful torment in this world and in the Hereafter. And Allaah knows and you know not”
[al-Noor 24:19]
and the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever calls people to right guidance will have a reward like that of those who follow him, without that detracting from their reward in the slightest, and whoever calls people to misguidance will have a burden of sin like that of those who follow him, without that detracting from their burden in the slightest.” Narrated by Muslim in hisSaheeh(4831).
See also the answer to questions number 1200and 5000.
The part of his salary that results from the haraam part of his work is haraam.
With regard to contests, some of them are permissible and some are haraam. Contests in which the participant pays money, even if it is the cost of a phone call, are haraam and are a type of gambling.
Moreover, it is no secret that working in this environment is not free of other evils, because of mixing and because usually people who work there are included to evil and are lacking in religious commitment.
Hence you should advise this young man. If he repents to Allaah and gives up this work, and finds a permissible job, there is no reason why you should not marry him. But if he continues in this job, there is nothing good for you in him because his wealth is mixed and contains both halaal and haraam, and there is no guarantee that he will not weaken and change because of the environment in which he works.
We ask Allaah to bless you with a righteous husband and righteous offspring.
And Allaah knows best.
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I am a moderate muslim, I practise my faith to the best of my ability, which means no drink, smoke, drug, clubbing, freely socialising with the opposite sex... I am a stage my parents want me to get married. But I am finding it difficult to say yes to anyone of the proposals because they have all had some kind of relationship or been clubbing etc in the past.....
Most people say they have changed and so forth, but i tend to think, these actions have ramifications in the future.....
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Praise be to Allaah.
Islam is all moderation. Adherence to the teachings of Islam, doing the obligatory duties and avoiding the things that are forbidden are not optional for the Muslim, because these are things that Allaah has enjoined upon him. There is so much confusion nowadays that a person who avoids some haraam things and does some obligatory duties is regarded as being over-strict and stubborn. Undoubtedly this is because the people have deviated from correct understanding of Islam and because they indukge so much in sin and neglect the obligatory duties prescribed in sharee’ah.
We appreciate your keenness to adhere to the teachings of Islam in a society such as the one in which you are living. You should note that what you are doing is an action that is beloved by Allaah and by His believing friends, and that it is something which is hated by the devils among mankind and the jinn.
Your keenness to find a righteous husband is in accordance with teachings of Islam on choosing and marrying a spouse, but you should not reject a person who is known for his good character and religious commitment because of his past. If a person has repented, his past should not be a source of shame and he should not be rejected if he comes seeking marriage. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The one who repents from sin is like one who did not sin at all.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as hasan by al-Albaani. But if he has a past record of sin and it is not known whether he had given it up, in such a case you cannot be sure of his morals or religious commitment, so he cannot be accepted as a marriage partner.
It is not enough for a person to tell his fiancée or her guardians that he has changed and has given up the bad and immoral things that he used to do; his word cannot be accepted and believed until there is the certainty that he is telling the truth or that he has definitely given up those bad things.
Strive to choose a righteous man even if he has a past and do not reject him. Reject everyone who is known to have a bad past and has not given it up, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told men: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, or her religious commitment. Choose the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5090; Muslim, 1466).
This applies also to women, i.e., a woman should not accept anyone but a man who is religiously committed and of good character. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you to marry (your daughter) one who with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry (your daughter) to him, for if you do not do that, there will be fitnah (tribulation) in the land and widespread corruption.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1084; classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi, 866.
It says inTuhfat al-Ahwadhi: The phrase “if there comes to you to marry (your daughter)” means if he comes to ask to marry a woman from among your children or relatives. “One with (whom) … you are pleased” means you think well of him, and are pleased with his religious commitment. “His character” means his attitude and how he deals and interacts with others. “Then marry (your daughter) to him, for if you do not do that” means, if you do not marry (your daughter) to one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, and you are only concerned with lineage, beauty and wealth, “there will be fitnah (tribulation) in the land and widespread corruption” i.e., great corruption, because if you will only marry her to someone who is wealthy or of high status, most of your womenfolk may remain without husbands, and most of your men will remain without wives, so there will be a lot of temptation to commit zina, and perhaps the guardians may feel that their honour has been violated (because of zina), so there will be a lot of tribulation and corruption, which will result in illegitimacy and a lack of righteousness and chastity.
Some of the Sahaabah were mushriks, then they entered Islam and became good Muslims, and they got married, and were not rejected because of what they had done in the past.
What matters is what a man is adhering to now, so long as he has repented from whatever he has done in the past.
We ask Allaah to make it easy for you to find a righteous husband and have righteous children.
Praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds.
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