Engagment, - Dought & clear, - * Will getting married to someone who is possessed affect the children in the future?

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A.a am thinking of getting married but I have not settled on anyone yet.I have a cousin who am considering but she has a jin in her,so my question. Is can it affect a marriage and is it possible to get out of her and can it affect the children insha-Allah and what does the prophet saw say about such a marriage.
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Praise be to Allah.
Firstly:
The fact that a jinni can possess a human and enter his body and cause seizures is proven according to the Qur’an and Sunnah and scholarly consensus.
But no such thing can happen except by Allah’s leave.
Secondly:
Being possessed by a jinni and having seizures as a result is not an impediment to marriage, but the one who is affected by that must inform a prospective spouse of it, because having these seizures is a defect which should be disclosed as it has an impact on some of the basic aims of marriage.
See also the answers to questions no. 135785and 158489
Thirdly:
Such situations may have an impact on the marriage as the husband may not have the patience to put up with this problem that affects his wife, and that may lead him to dislike interacting with her, so he will not treat her kindly or interact with her in a reasonable manner as enjoined by Allah.
But with regard to the impact of the jinni that is possessing her on the marriage and on married life, that impact will be affected by the degree of their faith and patience. If a person’s faith is strong, the Shaytaan will have no way to affect them, as Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily! He has no power over those who believe and put their trust only in their Lord (Allah).
His power is only over those who obey and follow him (Satan), and those who join partners with Him (Allah) (i.e. those who are Mushrikoon – polytheists)”
[an-Nahl 16:99-100].
And Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“ ‘And Istafziz (literally means: befool them gradually) those whom you can among them with your voice (i.e. songs, music, and any other call for Allahs disobedience), make assaults on them with your cavalry and your infantry, mutually share with them wealth and children (by tempting them to earn money by illegal ways usury, etc., or by committing illegal sexual intercourse, etc.), and make promises to them." But Satan promises them nothing but deceit.
‘Verily! My slaves (i.e the true believers of Islamic Monotheism), you have no authority over them. And All-Sufficient is your Lord as a Guardian’”
[al-Isra’ 17:64, 65].
But if a person’s faith is weak, the Shaytaan will toy with him as children play with a ball.
Fourthly:
The possession and what may result from it of seizures is a test for which Allah will reward the one who is tested with it, so patience will bring the greatest reward.
Al-Bukhaari (5652) and Muslim (2576) narrated that ‘Ata’ ibn Abi Rabaah said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: Ibn ‘Abbaas said to me: Shall I show you a woman of the people of Paradise? I said: Yes. He said: This black woman came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: I have epilepsy and I become uncovered. Pray to Allah for me. He said: “If you wish, you may be patient, and Paradise will be yours, or if you wish, I will pray to Allah to heal you.” She said: I will be patient. She said: But I become uncovered; pray to Allah that I will not become uncovered. So he prayed for her.
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
This indicates that the one who suffers from seizures will be granted the highest reward for it. End quote fromSharh Muslim(132/16)
Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Al-Bazzaar narrated a similar story from Ibn ‘Abbaas with a different isnaad, according to which she said: “I am afraid that the evil one may cause me to become uncovered.” It may be understood from some of the different versions of the hadeeth that what she was suffering from was the kind of seizures caused by the jinn and not that which results from dysfunction in the brain.”
End quote fromFath al-Baari(115/10)
Fifthly:
It is possible to treat this woman and expel the jinni from her, by Allah’s leave and by His strength and power, may He be glorified, for the Shaytaan is weak and he has no power over any believer, man or woman; rather it is harm that Allah may decree for whomever He will among His slaves, and for the believing men and women it is mercy and expiation, and will raise them in status.
The best means of treating this problem is to recite Qur’an over the one who is afflicted and to perform ruqyah by reciting the du‘aa’s that have been narrated (from the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)), and regularly reciting the prescribed wird and dhikr from the Qur’an, and that will disappear, by Allah’s leave.
Al-Haafiz said:
The hadeeth indicates that treating all diseases with du‘aa’ and turning to Allah is more beneficial and more efficacious than treating them with medications, because the effect of that is greater than the effect of physical medicine. But it is only efficacious in two cases: (i) if the sick person is sincere and (ii) if the one who treats him is strong in terms of piety and putting his trust in Allah.
End quote fromFath al-Baari(115/10).
See the answer to question no. 1819and 105336
Sixthly:
What we advise you to do is not to be hasty with regard to this marriage. Look at your own situation and that of the girl; if you think it most likely that you can put up with this situation, and that you will be patient with her, especially after having found out about her situation from those who know her or who have treated her, and the girl is good in terms of religious commitment and character, then put your trust in Allah and propose to her, especially since you have ties of kinship with her and it is more appropriate that you should care for her and be patient with her, in sha Allah,.
But if you know that you will not be able to bear it with patience, and it might be difficult for you to have a lasting relationship with her, then it is better not to get involved in this marriage, and there is no need for you to open the door to something that you might not be able to bear, or to shut that door again.
And Allah knows best.

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- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M. MD, IRI (Managing Director, Islamic Research Institution)

Engagment, - Dought & clear, - * Her father is addicted to alcohol and works for a Christian who sells pork; does she have to inform her suitor of that?

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I am a twenty-four-year-old woman and religiously committed, praise be to Allah. I have received a proposal of marriage from a young man who is of good character and religiously committed, and comes from a conservative and religiously committed family. When he asked about my father’s work, he was told that he is a butcher, but in fact he works as a butcher and salesman at the same time, for a foreign Christian man who sells pork and my father receives a wage for his work. In addition to that, my father is addicted to alcohol, something which tarnishes our honour and reputation. I am confused about my situation and I do not know whether I should tell my suitor frankly about these matters or not. If he asks me about them, how should I reply? Please note that I am not sure that he will marry me if he finds out the truth, and I want to get married so that I can live in a halaal manner after suffering a great deal because committing haraam things (in the past). I hope that you can advise me as to the right thing to do.
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Praise be to Allah.
We ask Allah, the Most Generous, to relieve you of the distress you find yourself in, and to make it easy for you to have a blessed marriage.
Undoubtedly the marriage contract is one of the most important and significant contracts in a person’s life, because of the things that result from it that have an impact on the family and the community, and what the husband and wife hope for from it of a happy life, bonding with another family, and righteous offspring.
It is important for anyone who wants to propose marriage to know about the family of his potential wife, and their reputation and standing. Based on that, the new marriage must be based on complete honesty and frankness, after which whatever Allah decrees will happen.
If you father’s problem has to do with a private matter or a sin that he is concealing, then you do not have the right to expose him, or to mention that to the suitor. As for the issue of his work, if it is hidden at present, it will inevitably become known, and if he does not come to know of it from you, he will come to know of it from other people.
Human relationships, if they are not based on honesty, frankness, sincerity and avoidance of deceit and treachery, quickly deteriorate, leading to negative consequences.
Muslim (55) narrated from Tameem ad-Daari (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Religion is sincerity.” We said: To whom? He said: “To Allah, to His Book, to His Messenger, and to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk.”
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Allah, may He be glorified, has enjoined sincerity and transparency when dealing with others in particular, and in all other issues in general, and He has prohibited treachery, deceit and concealment.
End quote fromal-Fataawa al-Kubra(6/150)
What we advise you to do is inform your suitor about your father’s situation and his work, and tell him that you are keen to set him straight and advise him. If he does not respond, then there is no blame on you for that, so long as you are keen to do what is right and obey your Lord, and are adhering to the noblest of attitudes. The Sahaabah themselves were originally disbelievers, until Allah bestowed upon them the blessing of faith, yet despite that their fathers and mothers died in a state of disbelief; in some cases their fathers and mothers lived to see Islam, but did not believe in it. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“No person earns any (sin) except against himself (only), and no bearer of burdens shall bear the burden of another”
[al-An‘aam 6:164]
“And no bearer of burdens shall bear another’s burden, and if one heavily laden calls another to (bear) his load, nothing of it will be lifted even though he be near of kin”
[Faatir 35:18].
Who knows? Perhaps your speaking frankly to him will prompt him to accept it, and increase the likelihood of love between you, so he will understand your situation and will appreciate your honesty with him and your desire to start the marriage on the right foot.
Be gentle in telling him; you do not have to give all the details frankly and in full. Tell him that you would like to seek his help in dealing with this trial and that you would like him to help you to advise your father, exhort him and remind him.
Whatever Allah has decreed for you inal-Lawh al-Mahfoozwill happen. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but is inscribed in the Book of Decrees (Al-Lawh Al-Mahfooz), before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allah.
In order that you may not be sad over matters that you fail to get, nor rejoice because of that which has been given to you”
[al-Hadeed 57:22-23].
If what you want comes to pass, then praise be to Allah. If what you dislike happens, then perhaps you dislike something but it is good for you.
And Allah knows best.

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- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M. MD, IRI (Managing Director, Islamic Research Institution)