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I am a young woman aged 26. I have received a marriage proposal from a young man who is of good character and religiously committed, and all his attributes are good. He is goodhearted and kind, but the reason I am hesitating to marry him and am delaying my response to his family is his job. He is currently a producer of programs and contests on television. The program that he produces is broadcast in the mornings contains various sections such as news, tourism, health, sports and interviews, and they are not free of clips of traditional songs, and both men and women appear on the program.
My question is: is the salary that he gets from this job halaal or haraam? Should I marry him? Because frankly I would like him as a husband because of the ties between us; from the time I was very young I liked him. Or would I be sinning by marrying him and would I be disobeying my Lord? Were it not for fear of Allaah, I would not bother to ask; and your answer will help me to make my final decision.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
You have done well to ask about matters of your religion and to pay attention to making sure that the source of your provision is halaal and to seek to marry a righteous man. We ask Allaah to make that easy for you.
Secondly:
Working in the production of programs and contests on television in the manner that you describe, which includes mixing between the sexes, songs and music, is work that includes both halaal and haraam, good and evil, because it is proven that mixing, musical instruments and showing images of women are haraam. Whatever is haraam, it is not permissible to produce it or to help in that, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Help you one another in Al‑Birr and At‑Taqwa (virtue, righteousness and piety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression. And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is Severe in punishment”
[al-Maa’idah 5:2]
“Verily, those who like that (the crime of) illegal sexual intercourse should be propagated among those who believe, they will have a painful torment in this world and in the Hereafter. And Allaah knows and you know not”
[al-Noor 24:19]
and the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever calls people to right guidance will have a reward like that of those who follow him, without that detracting from their reward in the slightest, and whoever calls people to misguidance will have a burden of sin like that of those who follow him, without that detracting from their burden in the slightest.” Narrated by Muslim in hisSaheeh(4831).
See also the answer to questions number 1200and 5000.
The part of his salary that results from the haraam part of his work is haraam.
With regard to contests, some of them are permissible and some are haraam. Contests in which the participant pays money, even if it is the cost of a phone call, are haraam and are a type of gambling.
Moreover, it is no secret that working in this environment is not free of other evils, because of mixing and because usually people who work there are included to evil and are lacking in religious commitment.
Hence you should advise this young man. If he repents to Allaah and gives up this work, and finds a permissible job, there is no reason why you should not marry him. But if he continues in this job, there is nothing good for you in him because his wealth is mixed and contains both halaal and haraam, and there is no guarantee that he will not weaken and change because of the environment in which he works.
We ask Allaah to bless you with a righteous husband and righteous offspring.
And Allaah knows best.
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I am a moderate muslim, I practise my faith to the best of my ability, which means no drink, smoke, drug, clubbing, freely socialising with the opposite sex... I am a stage my parents want me to get married. But I am finding it difficult to say yes to anyone of the proposals because they have all had some kind of relationship or been clubbing etc in the past.....
Most people say they have changed and so forth, but i tend to think, these actions have ramifications in the future.....
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Praise be to Allaah.
Islam is all moderation. Adherence to the teachings of Islam, doing the obligatory duties and avoiding the things that are forbidden are not optional for the Muslim, because these are things that Allaah has enjoined upon him. There is so much confusion nowadays that a person who avoids some haraam things and does some obligatory duties is regarded as being over-strict and stubborn. Undoubtedly this is because the people have deviated from correct understanding of Islam and because they indukge so much in sin and neglect the obligatory duties prescribed in sharee’ah.
We appreciate your keenness to adhere to the teachings of Islam in a society such as the one in which you are living. You should note that what you are doing is an action that is beloved by Allaah and by His believing friends, and that it is something which is hated by the devils among mankind and the jinn.
Your keenness to find a righteous husband is in accordance with teachings of Islam on choosing and marrying a spouse, but you should not reject a person who is known for his good character and religious commitment because of his past. If a person has repented, his past should not be a source of shame and he should not be rejected if he comes seeking marriage. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The one who repents from sin is like one who did not sin at all.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as hasan by al-Albaani. But if he has a past record of sin and it is not known whether he had given it up, in such a case you cannot be sure of his morals or religious commitment, so he cannot be accepted as a marriage partner.
It is not enough for a person to tell his fiancée or her guardians that he has changed and has given up the bad and immoral things that he used to do; his word cannot be accepted and believed until there is the certainty that he is telling the truth or that he has definitely given up those bad things.
Strive to choose a righteous man even if he has a past and do not reject him. Reject everyone who is known to have a bad past and has not given it up, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told men: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty, or her religious commitment. Choose the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5090; Muslim, 1466).
This applies also to women, i.e., a woman should not accept anyone but a man who is religiously committed and of good character. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If there comes to you to marry (your daughter) one who with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry (your daughter) to him, for if you do not do that, there will be fitnah (tribulation) in the land and widespread corruption.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1084; classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi, 866.
It says inTuhfat al-Ahwadhi: The phrase “if there comes to you to marry (your daughter)” means if he comes to ask to marry a woman from among your children or relatives. “One with (whom) … you are pleased” means you think well of him, and are pleased with his religious commitment. “His character” means his attitude and how he deals and interacts with others. “Then marry (your daughter) to him, for if you do not do that” means, if you do not marry (your daughter) to one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, and you are only concerned with lineage, beauty and wealth, “there will be fitnah (tribulation) in the land and widespread corruption” i.e., great corruption, because if you will only marry her to someone who is wealthy or of high status, most of your womenfolk may remain without husbands, and most of your men will remain without wives, so there will be a lot of temptation to commit zina, and perhaps the guardians may feel that their honour has been violated (because of zina), so there will be a lot of tribulation and corruption, which will result in illegitimacy and a lack of righteousness and chastity.
Some of the Sahaabah were mushriks, then they entered Islam and became good Muslims, and they got married, and were not rejected because of what they had done in the past.
What matters is what a man is adhering to now, so long as he has repented from whatever he has done in the past.
We ask Allaah to make it easy for you to find a righteous husband and have righteous children.
Praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds.
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Please Shaykh, I want to know the Isnaad of the Hadith of Abu Hurairah in which the Messenger supplicated for his Mother, and whether is al-Ghareeb hadith or Muttawatir, and whether it is Authentic.
Again how can we Refute the Sheeah regarding this hadith.
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Praise be to Allah
Firstly:
The supplication of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) for Abu Hurayrah and his mother (may Allah be pleased with them both) is proven in the hadith narrated by Imam Muslim (2491) via ‘Umar ibn Yoonus, from ‘Ikrimah ibn ‘Ammaar, from Abu Katheer Yazeed ibn ‘Abd ar-Rahmaan, from Abu Hurayrah, in which it says that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) offered supplication for his mother and said: “O Allah, guide the mother of Umm Hurayrah.”
Then after his mother became Muslim, Abu Hurayrah said: O Messenger of Allah, pray to Allah to make me and my mother beloved to His believing slaves, and to make them beloved to us. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “O Allah, make this slave of Yours – meaning Abu Hurayrah – and his mother beloved to Your believing slaves, and make the believers beloved to them.”
Abu Hurayrah said: There is no believer created who hears of me or sees me, but he loves me.
This is a saheeh hadith; the men of its isnaad are thiqaat and there is no flaw in it. It was narrated by Imam Muslim in hisSaheeh, which is the soundest of the books of Sunnah afterSaheeh al-Bukhaari.
Al-Haafiz Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said: This hadith is one of the signs of Prophethood, because Abu Hurayrah is beloved to all people.
End quote fromal-Bidaayah wa’n-Nihaayah(11/366).
This hadith is an ahaad hadith. It is not mutawaatir; rather it was narrated only by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him).
The fact that he is the only one who narrated this hadith does not matter, because it is not one of the conditions of a hadith being saheeh that it should be narrated by two or more narrators. Rather there are many saheeh ghareeb hadiths, the most well-known of which is the hadith “Actions are but by intentions.” It was narrated only by ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) and is known only from his narration.
For more details on this issue, please seeNuzhat an-Nadrby Ibn Hajar (p. 48);Tawdeeh al-Afkaarby as-San‘aani (1/28); andal-Anwaar al-Kaashifahby al-Mu‘allami al-Yamaani (p. 65).
Secondly:
Some of the Shi‘ah cast aspersions on this hadith on the grounds of a flimsy specious argument, which is that if the hadith were saheeh, the members of the Prophet’s household would have loved Abu Hurayrah!
‘Abd al-Husayn Sharaf ad-Deen al-Moosawi said in his bookAbu Hurayrah(p. 158):
“This hadith is dubious for several reasons, one of which is that it was not narrated from the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) except by Abu Hurayrah, so it is similar to all other reports that were narrated by him only.
“… If what Abu Hurayrah claimed is true about the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) offering supplication for him and his mother, that they would be beloved to the believers and the believers would be beloved to them, then the members of the Prophet’s family, the household among whom the message was revealed, would have loved him, for they are the leaders of the believers and of the followers of this religion. So how come their twelve imams and all their scholars look down at him and dismiss his hadith, and do not pay attention to anything that was narrated only by him? Ameer al-Mu’mineen (peace be upon him) said: Indeed the most mendacious of the people – or the most mendacious of the living – who tells the most lies against the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) is Abu Hurayrah ad-Dawsi…”
The response to that is to note that the hatred of the ordinary Shi‘ah towards Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), despite the fact that this hadith is proven, is something that casts aspersions upon them, not upon Abu Hurayrah or his hadith, and indicates that the faith of such people who cast such aspersions is unsound.
As for the claim that the imams of Ahl al-Bayt (the Prophet’s family) rejected the hadiths of Abu Hurayrah and did not narrate from him, and that ‘Ali ibn Abi Taalib (may Allah be pleased with him) regarded him as a liar – this is an obvious lie.
Professor ‘Abd al-Mun‘im Saalih included in his bookDifaa‘ ‘an Abi Hurayraha chapter in which he discussed the “narrations of the sons, troops, companions and freed slaves of ‘Ali, and the majority of the early Shi‘ah, from Abu Hurayrah” (p. 175-208).
He mentioned reports from Zayn al-‘Aabideen, Muhammad al-Baaqir, Ja‘far as-Saadiq, Muhammad ibn al-Hanafiyyah and his son, and others, all of whom confirmed that what ‘Abd al-Husayn Sharaf ad-Deen al-Moosawi said was false, and that this accusation (against Abu Hurayrah) that is attributed to ‘Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) is not true, and that neither his sons, his freed slaves nor his troops knew of it. Those who narrated from him never heard it and neither did the prominent figures of the first generation among the Shi‘ah. If this saying was true, it would have been well-known among them and they would have refrained from narrating from Abu Hurayrah! It will suffice us here to quote one report, that was narrated by al-Bukhaari in hisSaheehand also by Muslim (1509) via ‘Aasim ibn Muhammad, who said: Waaqid ibn Muhammad told me: Sa‘eed ibn Marjaanah, the companion of ‘Ali ibn Husayn, told me: Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) said to me: The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever frees a believing slave, Allah will ransom each of his limbs from the Fire for each of (the slave’s) limbs.”
Sa‘eed ibn Marjaanah said: I went to ‘Ali ibn Husayn and told him about this, and ‘Ali ibn Husayn (may Allah be pleased with him) went straight to a slave of his, for whom ‘Abdullah ibn Ja‘far had offered him ten thousand dirhams or a thousand dinars, and freed him.
This ‘Ali ibn al-Husayn (Zayn al-‘Aabideen) – may Allah have mercy on him – hastened to believe Abu Hurayrah and acted upon what he narrated without hesitation. In face he also narrated this hadith after that, from Sa‘eed ibn Marjaanah, from Abu Hurayrah, as it says inSaheeh al-Bukhaari(6715) and Muslim (1509).
We call upon Allah, may He be exalted, to witness that we love Abu Hurayrah and his mother, and all the companions of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), and we ask Him, may He be exalted, to gather us with them (on the Day of Resurrection).
And Allah knows best.
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